Enneagram Type Nine - The Peacemaker

Area of Avoidance: Feeling isolated & abandoned as a result of relationship breakdown.

Core Positive Attribute: Harmony

Often Attracted to…

• Peaceful and harmonious environments.

• Stability and comfort.

• Feeling at one with others.

• Helping others resolve conflict.

• Not having to give own opinion.

• Steady, reasonable pace.

• Not having to make heavyweight decisions.

Often Avoids…

• Loss of connection and fragmentation.

• Conflict, turmoil and disharmony.

• Direct confrontation.

• Feeling uncomfortable.

• Overload from too many demands.

• Feeling separated from or abandoned by others.

• Expressing own viewpoints.

High Integration – characteristic behaviours

• Able to listen well to others’ ideas and opinions.

• Able to formulate and voice own ideas and opinions even when they differ from other people around them.

• Able to take decisive action.

• Able to operate independently and interdependently.

• Able to engage with conflict and work though it effectively.

• Maintaining peace and harmony is important but not at all costs.

• Approachable and non-threatening in demeanour.

• Willing to listen but also needs to be heard.

• Grounded, engaged and present.

Low Integration – characteristic behaviours

• The drive to preserve the peace at all costs.

• A strong avoidance of conflict and situations of disharmony involving self.

• Difficulty making decisions independently, and appearing indecisive.

• Difficulty in formulating and voicing own opinions to others.

• Going along with whatever others decide to do.

• Difficulty getting into action quickly.

• Slow pace.

• A sense of being ungrounded and not present.

Typical development needs

• Learning that “I’m as important as everyone else.”

• Learning to engage with conflict and be able to navigate through it successfully.

• Learning to risk conflict by voicing own ideas and opinions.

  
  

By Colin Adam